Good Couples Counselling Mends Damaged Relationships
There are very few relationships in the world today that
manage to steer their course through life's rich tapestry without encountering
a few problems along the way. In many instances the rifts that develop between
couples are quite minor and begin over something rather trivial. But it is when
they go unheeded that these minor incursions can become deep rooted and form
the beginnings of a growing divide that can split couples wide apart. Couples
counseling is a way of bringing two parties back together again, and allowing
them, through the mediation of a professional councilor, to discuss problems in
a more rational way.
Very often, the thing that makes rifts worse, and divides
even deeper, is that fact that communication between a couple breaks down; and
it is communication that is the key. With it there is always a chance of
mending bridges, but without it, things will only go from bad to worse.
This is precisely why couples counseling is becoming more
and more popular. It provides that precious channel of communication that
enables an exchange of views. Relationship counseling acts as a neutral
sounding board. It grants couples the opportunity to air the problems and
concerns that are creating the disharmony. It has a way of putting things into
perspective and people often find that many of the things that seem so
infuriating at the time turn out to be somewhat trivial when put openly on the
table in front of an unbiased third party.
But no matter how trivialized points may seem to you, a
professional counselor understands just how annoying some of the seemingly
little things can be in reality. Couples counseling facilitates communication.
The couples that manage to pluck up the courage to go for relationship
counseling have actually already taken the first step on the road to repairing
the damage.
If both people in a relationship still have feelings for one
another, then the foundations are there to get the relationship back on track.
Relationships need love to make them work; without it the pressures and
stresses of modern life today will exert sufficient strain to challenge even
the patience of a saint, and it is under this continual strain that chinks can
begin to appear in the strongest of relationships.
Couples counseling will help you to focus on the core
strengths of your relationship. It will also help you to have meaningful
discussions without resorting to a slanging match. Very often one partner or
the other is totally unaware that something in their behavior is having such a
radical effect on their other half. By communicating these feelings across an
open forum with your neutral counselor in attendance, it opens the eyes on both
partners.
A counselor is not a judge. He/she is merely there to create
this channel of communication. In the final result it is the couple themselves
who actually heal the rift. It is their commitment and feeling for each other
that creates the opportunity for relationship counseling to be effective.
Couples counseling is a truly effective tool. If there is a
vestige of feeling left in both parties of the relationship, good counseling
will enable both understanding and compassion. It is always worth remembering
how your relationship began; the excitement, the passions, the hopes and the
dreams. Relationship counseling will help you to relive those feelings, but
will also help you to value the subtle changes that take place as relationships
grow. Our needs change as we mature through life, and couples counselling will
help you both to appreciate the changes, and to welcome them, together.
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